Hello there, sister from another mister!
Today I have a word that many of us probably don't really want to hear but I'll give it to y'all anyways since I'm Ashley and this is just what I do. So, I was talking to my holyghostified, anointed and very blunt brother the other day, who doesn't believe in sugar coating anything. And one thing I love about talking to guys about dating and relationships (Christian Men I mean because other guys' opinions don't really matter) is that we get a completely different perspective on things than when it's just the usual girl talk.
What he told me was that many of us women of God are not going to get a "fully cooked guy" but the problem is that many of us are also not willing to help with the stirring.
Now let me interrupt myself here and make this one thing very clear: I don't believe in "helping" a man like me. Neither do I believe in women chasing a man. As a matter of fact I'm really conservative about this matter. And in case you've ever watched any of my videos, you'll know that.
This is why my first response to my bro's statement was: "This ain't my portion!" My own needs to be fully cooked or I'm out! Minus me! God forbid"? (Y'all know I'm dramatic)
But my strong opinion about this, kind of changed when I had to advise my good friend. You know how things make more sense when they don't neccesarily affect you directly and you're able to give some amazing advice that you should take yourself? Yeah, that happened to me.
My Girlfriend felt like she was getting mixed signals from a guy. And as we were discussing I found myself giving her the same advice from my friend that I so rapidly rejected the other day. I told her that it's obvious that the guy likes her but doesn't really know how to go about it. This may have something to do with the fact that many Christian men don't really know how to pursue a woman but I guess that's topic for another blog post.
"Maybe it's time you stop being so prideful and text first." Doesn't even sound like Ashley, right? But I really meant it.
There's just something about pride! Pride is a demonic and satanic characteristic that is hindering many of God's people to enter into their Destiny. It has a lot of us stuck in singleness longer than necessary. There are certain things we will never attain unless we let go of pride.
Some of us are playing shakarah for 6 months once a guy shows interest in us because of our pride issues. Sis, God helps those who help themselves meanwhile you're not helping yourself at all.
One thing I've learned in life is that if I ever want a successful marriage I'm going to need to leave my pride in my Fathers house. I would never want to be a wife that can't say sorry first, or clean after my husband or serve him his food because of Pride. But if we don't get rid of pride in our season of singleness we will tear down our marriages with our own hands in the future.
Many of us don't even know how to act when a man approaches us and respond very rude and haughty. Don't let pride become a stumbling block in any area of your life. What we're not going to do is lower our standards or question our worth but what we should do is ask God to take away our pride.
Don't be too proud to text first.
Don't be too proud to give a compliment back.
Don't be too shy to show your intrested too.
But don't overdo it, Sis! Stay in your lane! Lol!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.-1 Corinthians 13:4
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